Your Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex

Oh, yes, we went there.

Maybe you've always wanted to try it but feel nervous about taking the plunge. Or maybe anal is already part of your sex routine and you're looking for tips to make it even hotter. Or maybe you're just curious to know what backdoor sex is really like. Whether you're an anal virgin or a die-hard fan, you'll want to keep reading: We talked to sex experts Jessica O'Reilly, Ph.D., author of Hot Sex Tips, Tricks and Licks, and Jane Greer, Ph.D., a New York-based marriage and sex therapist and author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship, to get answers to all of your butt sex-related questions.

ANAL QUESTIONS

YOU ALWAYS WANTED ANSWERED

Isn't it Kind of...Gross?

"The biggest misconception about anal sex is that it's disgusting, dirty, messy, or that it hurts," says Greer. Yes, she says that for some people, some of those things may be true. "But everyone should know anal sex can be an extremely erotic, exciting activity," she says. "If you're willing to try it, you might find it an unexpectedly fun addition to your sexual repertoire."

But No Really—Does It Hurt?

Research suggests that pain is common, especially in the beginning. However, it definitely doesn't have to hurt—and there are ways to make it pleasurable, not painful. "With adequate relaxation and arousal, it should feel good for both parties," says O'Reilly. "If you find insertion painful or difficult, stop and go back to the drawing board. Get yourself all riled up and excited in your usual reliable manner, and then return to anal play."

How Do I Get Started?

"The most important thing is feeling comfortable—you can even wash beforehand if that will help," says Greer. Then, she says, it's all about starting slowly. "You can begin with inserting a finger first and using lube to get comfortable with the pressure in your rectum," she says. "Pay attention to other erotic zones—breasts, neck, etc.—to get excited at the same time as you're being stimulated anally."

O'Reilly suggests dipping your toe into the water before you dive all the way in: "Wait until you’re very close to orgasm before introducing new sex acts—like anal penetration—into your routine," she says. "When you're aroused, the hormonal changes in your body have a palliative effect and help you to relax and experience pleasure more profoundly."

Is Penetration Absolutely Necessary?

Nope—you can enjoy butt play even if you're not ready to go all the way just yet. Before you go the penetration route, O'Reilly recommends playing with your "pucker" (a.k.a. your butt hole). She says to, "press, fondle, stroke, and swirl your way around to become more comfortable with pleasurable sensations in the region."

Try Solo Play First

"Your two sphincter muscles are not only essential to anal health but also to pleasure," says O'Reilly. "These ring-like structures control what goes in and out of your butt, so you need to become familiar with their functioning and learn to exercise control over them. When you’re in the shower or touching yourself, try sliding a lubed-up finger inside as gently and slowly as possible, and allow your sphincter muscles to contract and release." This will make you more comfortable—and help you discover what feels best back there.

Breathe Deeply

"Holding your breath interferes with muscle relaxation, which is essential to anal sex," says O'Reilly. "As you breathe deeply, your inner sphincter muscle will relax to facilitate penetration." You may feel like you're in a Lamaze class, but practice your breathing while you're doing the DIY route—so you have a good breathing pattern going when you introduce your partner.

Use Lube

"Most people prefer silicone-based lube for anal sex," says O'Reilly. But no matter what type of slippery stuff you choose, you'll probably want to use something to make anal more pleasurable: "Lube is a non-negotiable when it comes to anal play," says O'Reilly.

Try Oral

"If you've been doing it for a while and want to make it even better, see if oral sex anally is an exciting way for you to get aroused before penetration," says Greer. "If it starts to feel uncomfortable, stop until your muscles are relaxed enough to move forward."

Double Your Pleasure

"If you have a vagina and a clit, use them," says O'Reilly. She suggests inserting a toy into your vagina during anal in order to "press against the cul-de-sac from both sides." By "cul-de-sac," she means the little space along the lower/back wall of your vagina, between the cervix and the vaginal wall. "Some women attribute orgasm from anal sex to this hot spot," she says.

Try the "Lap Dance" Position

O'Reilly explains what this means exactly: "The penetrative partner sits on a chair, and their partner stands over them as though they're giving a lap dance. This not only provides a sexy view, but it also allows the standing partner to exercise total control."

Incorporate Some Toys

If you really want to amp up the sensation, O'Reilly suggests playing with a sex accessory, like a vibrating penis ring.

No Matter What...Always Be Safe

"The anus is sensitive and prone to tearing and infection," says O'Reilly. "Be sure to practice safer sex with lube and condoms." It's also important not to cross-contaminate: "You never want to put an object in your bum and then back into your vagina," she says.

One Last Thing...

"If you’re not into anal sex, that's okay too," says O'Reilly. "You don't have to create a sexual bucket list and cross off every item in order to enjoy fulfilling sex life—you simply need to keep an open mind. If you're not into it today, you may want to revisit the possibility in a few months, as your erotic script, arousal pathways, and interpretations of pleasure are constantly changing." 

From Women's Health

Some great info about Banana’s beside that it’s amazing to watch your partner taking it all the way!

Suffering from weakness, loss of interest or low confidence in bed? Well Mr Banana’s here to the rescue (pun intended). The truth is that if guys need a little help down there, then the banana is their perfect ally. An intake of this bright yellow fruit, few hours before a lovemaking session will help you greatly.

They will make sure they boost your body’s glucose levels and also replenish your lost confidence. Bromelain, an enzyme found in the fruit can fight impotency in men.  Not only this, they also help regulate serotonin which is a hormone that enhances your mood and also acts as a mild sedative.

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It's the vitamin B in bananas that boosts your sexual performance. It increases your energy production and reduces stress.

There's a bunch of other good stuff in every banana, like tryptophan (an amino acid that helps produce our feel-good hormone, serotonin), potassium (used to produce sex hormones), and bromelain (an enzyme that improves blood flow and increases libido).

Beside this here are some other interesting facts.

NATURAL ENERGY

Bananas have a unique blend of vitamins, minerals, and carbohydrates that provide a quick supply of natural energy. In addition, bananas have a healthier blend of three natural sugars: glucose, sucrose and fructose. The combination of these sugars have great energy potential. Bananas are one of the few fruits that contain both complex and simple carbohydrates. Complex carbohydrates give you endurance energy and simple carbohydrates give you quick energy.

POTASSIUM-RICH FOOD

Bananas are one of the best sources of potassium, an essential mineral for maintaining normal blood pressure and heart function. The effectiveness of potassium-rich foods in lowering blood pressure has been demonstrated by a number of studies.

STOMACH ULCERS

Bananas have long been recognized for their antacid effects that protect against stomach ulcers and ulcer damage. They work their protective magic in two ways: First, substances in bananas help activate the cells that compose the stomach lining, so they produce a thicker protective mucus barrier against stomach acids. Second, other compounds in bananas called protease inhibitors help eliminate bacteria in the stomach that have been pinpointed as a primary cause of stomach ulcers.

BONE HEALTH

Along with lowering blood pressure, potassium prevents the weakening of the body’s bones. A high sodium intake can cause excessive amount of calcium to be lost through the urine, which threatens not only the strength and general health of the bones, but also negatively affects blood clotting, proper muscle contraction, and normal nervous system function. The potassium found in bananas neutralizes the high amounts of sodium in one’s diet, allowing for healthy amounts of calcium to remain within the body.

HIGH NUTRIENT ABSORPTION

The potassium in bananas is not the only way to ensure healthy levels of calcium in the body. Bananas also contain high levels of fructooligosaccharide (FOS), that along with insulin promotes calcium absorption. FOS further nourishes healthy bacteria in the

colon that manufacture vitamins and digestive enzymes that boost the body’s overall ability to absorb nutrients.

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The BXG suite is located in Room 404 of the Sanctum Soho hotel. A couples package starts at £290, but if you're willing to shell out thousands then you just might find yourself with a extra partner for the night.

[The standard suite comes with] a Bijoux Sanctum flight case, which costs £350 extra should you wish to have it filled with BXG contents. The £350 box comes with restraint, BXG leather mask, grey tie, Lelo Whip, feather, latex Bondage Bow and a bullet intimate you, housed within BXG's custom Bijoux flight case.

If you've got a few hundred more quid burning a hole in your designer jeans then you can opt for the Ultimate Sanctum case, available on request for £849.

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Este producto de higiene para el pene se muestra en una botellita de 150 ml, pudiéndose utilizar en cualquier momento para refrescar el pene, gracias a su cómodo spray que no mancha la ropa ni las manos, aplicándose de manera instantánea. Su acción refrescante te encantará, además proporciona un aroma natural y agradable gracias a sus extractos de plantas totalmente fascinantes. Su diseño discreto te permitirá llevarlo como un accesorio más de tu belleza, en tu neceser junto con (por ejemplo) la pasta de dientes para lavarte los dientes en la oficina o la toallita del gimnasio. Puedes utilizarlo cuando desees y no habrá un mínimo o un máximo de veces para echarlo. Incluso puedes aplicártelo en la mitad del día o al anochecer, al volver a casa después de un día repleto de ajetreo.

Acompaña a la utilización de este producto un jabón neutro de glicerina para la ducha, que te ayudará a mantener tu hidratación natural. También intenta mantener un grado alto de limpieza en la zona del escroto y los testículos, no sólo en el pene, generando que tu piel esté sana y no acumule pieles muertas así como humedad, que podría desencadenar en el desarrollo de un hongo de la piel.

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This hygiene product for penis shown in a bottle of 150 ml and can be used at any time to refresh the penis, thanks to its convenient spray that does not stain clothes or hands, apply instantly. Its refreshing action'll love also provides a natural and enjoyable thanks to its totally fascinating plants extracts aroma. Its low-profile design lets you take it as an accessory to your beauty, your vanity with (for example) the toothpaste to brush your teeth in the office or gym towel. You can use it when you want and there is no minimum or maximum times to throw. You can even apply in the middle of the day or evening, on returning home after a full day of hustle.

Join the use of this product neutral glycerin soap for the shower, to help you keep your natural moisture. It also tries to maintain a high degree of cleanliness in the area of the scrotum and testicles, not only in the penis, causing your skin is healthy and no dead skin buildup and moisture, which could trigger the development of a skin fungus.

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Here’s something to add to your list of ‘acceptable things to borrow from her’. No, not curlers, Bateman – it’s her hormone profile. Far from turning you into a woman, oestrogen plays a key role in combating middle age spread and, er, droop. Some of the symptoms routinely attributed to testosterone deficiency are actually caused by the decline in oestrogen. Indeed, ‘O’ is vital for everything from fat loss and sex drive to heart and bone health. Just don’t try to increase levels yourself; that’s a fast track to moobs. Instead, you should prioritise testosterone – 80% of your oestrogen is converted from T. One of the best ways to achieve this is with kettlebell swings: the University of North Texas found just 10 sets (30 seconds on, 30 off), triggers a big hormone boost. It’ll keep testosterone, oestrogen – and other things – up.

Originally from Men's Health

5 UNBELIEVABLE Ways You Can Get an Orgasm

Your belly button and thumb just got a whole lot hotter

In the 2002 movie 40 Days and 40 Nights, Josh Hartnett plays a guy who pledges to abstain from having sex for that long. It’s a truly forgettable flick in every way, except for one scene: Hartnett’s character gives his girlfriend an orgasm using nothing but a flower. 

Because we occasionally think about awful movies from the early aughts, the scene got us wondering: How else can you achieve (and give her) an orgasm without actually having sex or masturbating? Let’s count the crazy ways:  

1. Braingasms

“Sex is often pigeon-holed into a physical act involving genitals, but the reality is that the hottest sex happens between our ears,” says Jessica O’Reilly, Ph.D., author of The New Sex Bible: The New Guide to Sexual Love. That’s true for just about everybody—arousal is physical and mental—but if you try hard enough, your thoughts really are all you need to get off.

“Some people can actually ‘think’ themselves off through fantasy and breath work,” says O’Reilly. These are sometimes called “energy orgasms,” because the method requires serious mental concentration and a special type of breathing, but those who practice it claim that anyone can learn. Barry Komisaruk, Ph.D., studied this phenomenon at his brain-researching lab at Rutgers University, and found that in an MRI, orgasms from “thinking off” showed up in the same spot of the brain as orgasms from genital contact.

2. Breastgasms

Researchers have found that stimulating a woman’s nipples activates the same part of her brain as triggering her clitoris. “Scientists hypothesize that these shared neurons release oxytocin, which induces pleasure, relaxation, and spikes to peak levels just before orgasm,” explains O’Reilly.

In one study, sex researcher Herbert Otto, Ph.D., found that about 29 percent of women had experienced a breast orgasm at one time or another. Interestingly, O’Reilly says that “the nipples are not the only sensitive part of the breast. Many women actually pinpoint the area right above the areola as the most responsive to sexual touch.” Click here to learn how to give her a nipple orgasm. 

3. Belly Button Orgasms

Believe it or not, some people can be incredibly aroused by their belly buttons. It’s called “naval fetishization,” and it’s intense enough to induce an orgasm.

While there isn’t much research on the subject, it’s theorized that belly button stimulation can hit the vagus nerve, a branchlike structure that connects the brain to the cervix via the belly. For men, it’s the vagus nerve that causes that stomach-turning, nauseatingly painful feeling when you’re kicked in the balls. But for certain women, stimulating that nerve via the belly button can take them straight to Pleasuretown. 

4. Coregasms

Although it sounds like Pilates propaganda, women can actually achieve orgasm through core exercises. In one study, about 45 percent of women who said they’d had an exercise-induced orgasm experienced it during abdominal moves, while 26 percent felt it during weight lifting, 20 percent during yoga, and 15 percent while biking.

5. Thumbgasms

Sucking on your thumb as a grown man is weird, but it’s even weirder if it can make you come. A quadriplegic man named Rafe Briggs made news last year when he discovered that he could have orgasms through thumb stimulation. Sex therapists called it a “transfer orgasm,” since gently massaging or sucking on his thumb—as if it were his penis—seemed to have transferred erotic sensations to the finger. 

What Foods Produce Pheromones in the Body?

Sexual attraction may be more science than seduction, making chemistry between people a reality. National Public Radio reported that scientists in 1959, first identified chemical triggers sent and received by living organisms, and named them pheromones. Pheromones are chemicals sent from one body to another, within the same species, and are used to communicate danger, marking territory or attracting a mate. The good news is you may have control over how you attract a mate by the foods you eat.

Natural Pheromones

Pheromone research in humans has primarily focused on natural chemicals and odors that are concentrated in the skin, the largest organ of the human body. According to the December 31, 2008 Journal of Neuroscience, an MRI study of female brains, conducted by Dr. Chen from Rice University in Houston, showed a strong, unconscious response to male sexual sweat vs. little to no response to other types of male sweat, such as through exercising. Dr. Chen concluded that findings provide neural evidence that socioemotional meanings, including the sexual ones, are conveyed in the human sweat.

Replicating Pheromones

Research cannot yet guarantee that food produces pheromones per se, but evidence is clear that certain foods increase libido and stimulate attraction. Dr. Hirsch and Dr. Gruss of the Smell and Taste Research Foundation in Chicago investigated the impact of smells on arousal of men. One study clearly showed a 40 percent increase in penile blood flow when lavender and pumpkin pie were smelled together. Thirty odors were tested and the direct connection between odors and sex response cannot be denied.

Since the senses of smell and taste are so closely related, certain foods could trigger sexual appetites, even through the skin.

Olfactory Pheromones

Olfactory pertains to the sense of smell. According to the Smell and Taste Research Foundation, the following smells caused a reaction in men worth noting: lavender and pumpkin, black licorice and donut, orange, cola, buttered popcorn, and vanilla especially enticed older men.

Aphrodisiac Pheromones

Oysters have long been suspected to have an aphrodisiac effect. According to Discovery Health, it may be due to their high level of zinc, which is essential for a healthy reproductive system; they also increase testosterone and libido. Almonds and asparagus are high in Vitamin E, which affects sex hormones. Chocolate contains phenylamine, associated with raising mood and libido. Chilies contain capsaicin, the substance in hot peppers, spicy foods and curries; this releases endorphins, which in turn, can arouse sexual desire.

Brain-Food Connection

Sexual response begins in the brain, your largest sex organ. In Psychology Today, Dr. G. Frank Lawlis points out other foods that stimulate sexual response in the brain, as well as increase sex hormones: bananas, granola, oatmeal, peanuts, cashews, walnuts, dairy, green vegetables, root vegetables, garlic, ginseng, chickpeas and seeds. Papaya has compounds that act like estrogen in women. Before bed, try eating pine nuts, which have been ground up and used for centuries to make love potion.

From LiveStrong.com 

With a slight smile on our face we like to share some reviews written on Amazon UK about our JNaja's

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5 Star - lovely, lovely!, 17 Jan. 2014
I recently wrote a review about this ring, although it was for the 50mm one, which is no longer listed (so you cannot read my review). Now I'm just waiting for the seller to get more of the medium size back in stock. It is shaped in a genial way and is the most beautiful, comfortable and stimulating ring I've ever used. No sweaty plastic feel at all but a soft velvety surface and can be worn for hours without irritating the skin. It is nicely curved to fit your body well and doesn't squeeze in any way, only it grabs you where you like it - at the top and bottom ends!
The number of discarded or broken rings I've had is high, I can tell you, so this was the ONE for me. Make sure you get the right size for yourself, because it cannot be stretched. The first one I bought was 45mm and I couldn't get it on, because the minimum inner diameter was several mm smaller than advertised. However, a 55mm would not sit right either on the right places. I bought one in white and coloured it deep blue with a permanent marker so now it has a brilliant look, as the colour sticks well and doesn't seem to wear off. Please, please, seller - get more of these in!

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4 Star - The presentation is excellent. The ring itself is very rigid with a ..., 23 Nov. 2014
Well, I've been after one of these for a few months now. I'm a relative new comer to the cock ring scene and this is my fourth ring in a relatively short space of time. I was slightly confused with the measuring business. It depends exactly where you put the string and how tight you pull as to the measurement you get. I must have measured dozens of times, most of which were at the larger end of the sizes. I just didn't believe this as I'm rather slightly built and not overly large down below. In the end I plumped for the 50 as opposed to the 55. Delivery was very prompt. The packaging was very discreet and the contents could have been anything really. There was nothing to suggest that the contents were remotely kinky. The presentation is excellent. The ring itself is very rigid with a slightly textured surface.
As soon as the JNaja was delivered I couldn't wait to try it on. I was in work and promptly disappeared into the loo. It was a real struggle trying to get it on. It would be far easier if you were warm and hanging loose. I managed to get me two spuds in and really struggled to get the old man in there. I had visions of ending up in A and E. However, God loves a tryer and eventually I was in. Hey presto, instant stiffy. This thing really did feel fantastic. I wore it for the rest of the day. Just walking to the car put a smile on my face. It felt wonderful. I was incredibly horny. It also makes your bits stick out and gives you a noticeable bulge. I was strutting around like a peacock.
Later that evening I showed her ladyship. She was intrigued about this thing as she'd been helping me measure up for it. We ended up having sex. She thought the old man looked rather engorged and asked if it was sore. It does look fatter with this thing on. The sex was good (atleast it was good for me). I think this thing makes you last longer and you feel bigger. I liked the noises the lady was making.
However, I think I might have been better buying the larger size. The old man gets a bit swollen and I assume that this is due to the tightness of the device. Also, the leading edge that sits agains the base of your cock is ever so slightly rough which really isn't a good idea in the nether regions.
Last night I slept in it but it was rather uncomfortable. I think I'll give it a rest for a few days and let the old man have some recouperation time.
On the whole I rather like this. Measure well and feel free to post a query on here if you can.
4 Star - Once on was comfortable and a pleassure to use, 22 Sept. 2013
Its a bit tricky to get it on but once you do you will be pleasantly surprised how comfy it is and makes you feel pretty good.

Would advise to be well trimmed and make sure you measure up, bearing in mind it's both your dangelies that go in it.